I love this quote by Daniell Koepke. In fact I like many quotes by Daniell. She doesn’t mince words. She says it just as it is. No beating around the bush. No walking on eggshells.
Here below is the complete quote. I couldn’t fit it all in the picture above:
You don’t ever have to tolerate people who treat you poorly. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, a family member, or a partner. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them for or how nice they may have been to you in the past – you’re allowed to call people out on their abusive behavior. You’re allowed to set boundaries about what you are and are not willing to tolerate. You’re allowed to vocalize how their abuse makes you feel. You’re allowed to share those feelings and experiences with other people. And if necessary, you’re allowed to leave and distance yourself. You have every right to stand up and say, “I love you and I really want you to be a part of my life, but I can’t continue to allow you to treat me this way. I can’t continue to sacrifice my wellbeing for the sake of maintaining this connection. So if things don’t change, I’m going to have to cut you out of my life. Not because I don’t care about you or respect you, but because I care about and respect myself.”
— Daniell Koepke
Hope these words help you today. Or someone else you know.
I wish I could walk away but I’m trapped. I have no money of my own and nowhere to go. But I’ll always remember your words.
You really can change your situation. First, tell me what exactly you would like…what is your perfect situation? And I’ll tell you what you can do next in your own mind, and see it coming true. The true power is always within us. And I am saying that from experience. Hugs.
Alison S says
Julianne, I was in a similar situation many years ago, when my children were 9 and 11 years old. You will know when that day comes that you have simply had enough. I went out and got 2 jobs and banked every dollar I made until I had enough money to take my children and leave my abusive marriage. If I can do it, you can too….