What qualities do you want in your soulmate?
Which one of these are missing in you?
How can you bring those qualities in yourself, and why should you do that?
Time for list making! Lists are great! They make your intention much clearer about what/who it is that you are seeking in your life. It is very important that you make your list AFTER you do your Higher Self meditation that I posted in part 2 of this soulmate series. It is important that you do this after doing the Higher Self meditation, so that you think of the highest qualities, guided by your wise Higher Self.
I’m posting the meditation once again so that you can do it easily:
Are you done with your meditation? Now we’ll make a list of the qualities you are looking for in the person you want in your life. Close your eyes, and ask your Higher Self what qualities you should look for in the soul you are inviting into your life.
For example, I am calling in a friend who:
1. Lives close to my home so I can meet her/him easily and frequently.
2. Has a family that is on the same wave-length as my family, and we can all be great family friends, and have a good time together.
3. She/He should LOVE animals and be willing to go great lengths to do animal rescue work with me.
4. She/He should be resourceful and know people who can be powerful and useful in helping animals.
5. She/He should remain calm even in the face of problems in our work in animal rescue.
I will complete my list on my own, but wanted to give you an idea of what to do.
The next question to ask is, “Which one of these qualities are missing in me?”. For me, I do not have the qualities listed in points 4 & 5. I am not resourceful in this area, and I do not know anyone here who could help with animal rescue. I also get really really really upset when I see animals in trouble…I lose my cool.
The last question is, “How can I bring these missing qualities in myself, and why should I do that?”. The reason to do this is because when we bring in as many of those qualities that we are missing in ourselves (and therefore looking for in another), we feel more and more complete, and do not feel like we “NEED” another. You know there is this crazy thing that happens: Somehow, as long as we crave for, and pine for another, they do not appear. When we feel complete within ourselves, and feel we really do not need another, and are perfectly happy by ourselves, somehow “the other” appears. Yes, crazy, but somehow it works out that way.
Now of course, if you are a woman, looking for a man, you cannot become a man…BUT, what you can do is, invoke your own masculine energy so you feel complete within yourself. We, as souls are not male or female. We have both energies, and we feel most balanced, complete, and happy, when we have both our energies balanced – feminine, and masculine. I will cover this in another blog post.
What are some of the ways to incorporate the “missing” qualities in ourselves? The two ways I totally love are:
1. Affirmations: For my example, I will repeat, “I am resourceful, and I know many people who are in powerful positions to help animals” and “I remain calm and peaceful under all circumstances”. Speaking, thinking, writing affirmations makes them a reality for us over time. Remember, it might take time…might not be overnight, so we need to be patient with ourselves and the Universe, and keep working on the affirmations.
2. EFT tapping: EFT tapping is a topic by itself. I will cover this too in another blog post in this series, and help you learn how to incorporate the missing qualities in yourself.
So get going in your list making, figuring out the missing qualities, and turning those missing qualities into affirmations. I will see you next week!
If you have any questions, please write in the comments below. And please share your experiences too with me in the comments. As always, please share this article with others using the share buttons for Facebook, Twitter etc. above and below this article, so more and more people can benefit. Thank you :-).
Links to other posts in this series:
Part 1: https://www.swatinigam.com/meet-soulmate-part-1/
Part 2: https://www.swatinigam.com/meet-soulmate-part-2-higher-self/
I want to thank you not only for this series, but also the incredible meditation. It is hard for me to follow many guided meditations for one reason or another but as soon as the music began in this one it immediately captivated my heart like a forgotten music box from another place, one full of golden light and joy. Your voice is so resonant to my higher self that it takes me no time to connect and “remember” the things that are held within gently waiting for me. Thank you so much for sharing your light and love with everyone.
Thank you so much for your beautiful words Lisa…they mean a lot to me (((hugs))).
This morning meditation was incredible. I’m still humming inside with love and joy. Enthusiastic. I’m very grateful, thank you so much for your guidance <3
Soulmate part 3. I'm about to do a list of my missing qualities/ energies so I may do affirmations. One missing is, to learn how to push myself forward, not to fear the next step or to sink to no idea mode.
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Pia…you are just awesome! Love you! <3
I met this guy spand I thought we had a great connection, we saw each other very often and with in 2 weeks we went awsy tohether, but he didnt want to gave sex with me, but kept being so nice, so loving, even flew to another country to see me. then after s month hr told me that we should only be frienfs, because, he is my sister friend from childhood and I am 6oldet than him.
we rin into eacj other once a week for worl, i ser him looking st me, but tries to keep hid distsmcr, so I do too.
Am i crazy for falling for him, hr gave me a lot if signs, but then nothing!
dont know hoe to feel.
zi think i love him.
he maked me feel great, he makes me laugh, feel so good when we were together.
ehat happen?
Matia, please remember…if a man is interested, he will definitely let you know. Or if you feel confused you could ask him what he feels for you. Keep following this blog series, and you will be able to meet him soul to soul in a meditation and see what you feel <3.
The meditation as soon as i hear the music my soul relaxes! Tensions relaxed. You know I always thought of the qualities I wanted in a man but didn’t really think if lacked any of the same qualitues. I do! I will work on me and as I become more whole the man I attract will be more whole! Thanks, thanks!
You are absolutely right…as we become whole, we attract the right people in our lives <3.
I wish I could learn how to attract the right people.
I have been alone as a widowed for 11 years, and I feel I will never find love again, and I am wasting my time alone
Dear Dulce,
Have you been reading and doing the steps outlined so far in the soulmate blog series? The meditations, and the list? I pray that you DO find someone you can share your life with <3.
Hugs!
I am new at this, but wil try to do everything !!
thank you
When you do this, have faith that your true self – your Higher Self is not new to anything <3. If you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask <3.
I love your meditation. Your voice is so calming which helps to rwlax immediately. I feel so much calmer within myself and feel I now can enjoy today with not feeling so tired and exhausted from being so busy at work this past week. I am so glad to have met you through fb. Thank you. You are God send message to me. Blessings to you always..
I’m so happy my meditation helps you Gisela! <3 Hugs!!
I had a very emotional day today but came here and been reading some of your blogs Thru the meditations and postive energy i have calmed down… i too have been fooled by ppl who you think are friends and they are not… male and female but i hope tjis time i have learned my lesson and follow my intitions better.. theres so much love here and im gonna lay down in tad and practice your other blog you can realize things and get so much helpful learning information here thank you swati angel hugs to all
((((Teresa)))) I am so grateful I can help you. Truly grateful! Hugs!